Do you want less conflict and pain and more cooperation, ease, and joy in your relationships?
I’m launching the new project I’ve been working on for the past couple of months based on two of my values, empathy and understanding: Project Inner Child.
Between June 4h and July 1st, I am gifting 36 hours of coaching. That’s 24 coaching calls that are 90 minutes each for 24 people who are curious about their inner child.
Your inner world affects your outer world. Therefore, how you treat yourself (your inner child) affects all of your other relationships.
In your coaching call, you will gain clarity on the ways you parent your inner child, how that affects your ability to connect and communicate with your loved ones now, and what you can change to create a stronger sense of safety for your inner child so you can have close, lasting, joyful relationships with others.
But first, a short story…
When I was little, I was raised to keep my mouth shut and do what I was told. If I had big feelings, especially anger, disappointment, or frustration, I was rejected or punished.
I learned quickly that to be a “good girl,” I had to reject my feelings and pretend everything was okay as I obeyed my elders.
I didn’t get to say “no,” so boundaries were completely out of the question.
The effect this had on me as an adult was manyfold. I didn’t know what I wanted or didn’t. Instead, I did whatever other people wanted until I couldn’t take it anymore and left, blew up, or both.
I thought I had to “earn” people’s love and attention. As Brene’ Brown puts it, I was “hustling for worthiness.”
I engaged intimately with others to get their love and attention and had little regard for whether or not it was healthy emotionally or physically for me.
I mistrusted people and felt anxiety around others. I was constantly on guard, so my body was tight and tense, and I had to be doing something constantly to distract myself from that anxiety.
Above all else, I feared abandonment and would do anything to avoid someone leaving me – even at the expense of my physical, mental, emotional, or financial well-being.
Through a lot of therapy, ceremonies, reading, and training, I healed and changed all of this.
What made the biggest difference was re-parenting my inner child.
My little girl needed to feel safe and secure enough to be free, happy, playful, and connected. She needed to know she could say no, have boundaries, ask for what she wanted, and still be loved, protected, and belong.
Now I have an infant son, and I can observe him, give him space to have big feelings, support him through discipline without punishment, and thoroughly enjoy him.
Without changing the parenting style I inherited and perpetuated on my inner child, this would not be the case.
Now I am going to help you do the same!
How do you treat your inner child? Are you aware of him/her/them? How would you like that relationship to be?
Once you sort this out and develop the kind of compassionate relationship you want, it will show up in all of your other relationships, especially your close ones.
When your inner child can trust you to take care of him/her/them, you will feel safe enough to let people in and have close relationships.
Let’s create this together!
Here’s how it works:
- Between June 17th and July 15th, 24 people may book one gifted coaching session with me. These sessions will be 90 minutes long.
- During the call, we will deep-dive into how you treat yourself ( your inner dialogue,) what happens when you try new things and make mistakes, in what ways you listen to or ignore your inner child, how this affects your current relationships, how you would prefer things to be, and what needs to change for that to happen.
Afterward, if you want to explore working with me to make these changes, we will discuss what it would look like to go on this journey together with me as your coach. (I can take only 8 people on as coaching clients at this time.)
How you apply for a spot in Project Inner Child:
- Click this link and apply for one of the 40 spots between June 4th and July 1st. https://calendly.com/adinahbarlow/project-inner-child
- Complete the short workbook I will send you so you can get the most from your session.
- Await an email confirming your acceptance into the project.
- Your call is 90 minutes long on Zoom, and if you’d like to re-listen to it, I will record the call for you.
- Show up for yourself! Since space is limited in this project, apply only if you’re committed to showing up.
