If you find yourself yelling at your children, putting yourself last, and not getting your needs met, you’re not alone.
Although children bring out the best in us, they also bring up our unresolved childhood issues.
Creating a loving, compassionate relationship with your inner child is the key to having that kind of relationship with your children.
As a relationship coach, this is something I can help you with.
As a child, you had many experiences that shaped who you are and what your default beliefs and habits are now.
Some of those support the person you want to be now, and others get in the way.
You can change how you think about things, but unless you change your experiences, your nervous system and body remain stuck. This is where Somatic work comes into play.
When I work with clients to get past deeply held patterns and beliefs, we take a journey into their body’s sensations, emotions, and memories to reshape them.
The mind is an extremely powerful tool, and it doesn’t know the difference between imagination and reality. This is why you feel anxious when you think about something scary, like talking in public or having that difficult conversation with your significant other.
In Somatic Dialogue, we use this to our advantage to re-write significant memories that shape who you are.
For example, as a 13-year-old, you may have felt confusion and shame around your budding puberty and awkwardly shaped body. That experience still resides in your nervous system, where you still feel confusion, shame, and awkwardness about your body and sexuality. This keeps you from relaxing and enjoying yourself with your intimate partner.
Using Somatic Dialogue, I take you on a journey to notice your body’s sensations and emotions as you return to this memory. We discover what your 13-year-old needed at the time and imagine that you provide it for them now. We tie that back into your body’s current sensations and emotions, and it changes your nervous system’s experience, which changes your deeply-held patterns around it now.
This is only one example. I have helped my clients re-write significant memories of being abandoned, isolated, rejected, bullied, or abused. It is one of the most effective healing tools I have found to change the way you react to your experiences and relationships now.
If this sounds interesting to you, schedule a call with me to learn more and discover if we are a good fit to work together.
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Learn more about my coaching style here: https://www.adinahbarlow.com/relationship-coaching/
In this podcast, you can listen to somatic dialogue https://rss.com/podcasts/adinahbarlow/587664/
